Old Bottles

29 Mar

The downside of mature love is the knowledge that you can live-and even thrive-without each other. Work will fill those spaces earlier reserved for romance, you’ll make your peace with and perhaps celebrate singledom, and rejoice in the company of friends and family and a whole bed to stretch out on. No single object of affection is worth fighting, struggling, shrinking self or giving up haves for. You’ve sailed past that goal post and being on your supposed ownsome isn’t the bogeyman they made him out to be.

Daily rhythms cushion you, triumphs of the past buoy your troughs and the hours shrink magically, too few to bother with the likes of 20-something hankerings, their accompanying angst and the empty chores that make us feel needed. Peace is precious, choices dear, the self firmer, surer and less exploitable.

The upside of mature love is that it isn’t a necessity. Just an evil you can choose once you’re done figuring out the hours left on life’s timesheet.


9 Responses to “Old Bottles”

  1. Anjali March 29, 2010 at 3:37 pm #

    And what an evil it is! Difficult to not choose it.

  2. Orange Jammies March 30, 2010 at 12:03 am #

    Anjali: And yet there are some who admirably desist.

  3. Aunty G. March 30, 2010 at 12:16 am #

    Your words profound
    Show meaning found
    To Life’s caprices
    Without going to pieces
    So, Cheers! Let that bottle go ’round!

  4. Anjali March 30, 2010 at 11:00 am #

    Indeed, I would call them strong. And an answer to your tagline: It is perfectly alright if those balls go to hell once in a while! 🙂

  5. sukanya March 30, 2010 at 6:09 pm #

    too many balls up in the air -sounds familiar. but we can and have the power to let go of some.

  6. Jil Jil Ramamani March 30, 2010 at 9:44 pm #

    It’s the grass greener thing again eh? Evil?

  7. girlonthebridge March 31, 2010 at 3:48 am #

    Oh I hope hope you are choosing the evil. He seems worth it.

  8. dipali March 31, 2010 at 8:43 pm #

    But what a wonderful evil it is!

  9. Orange Jammies April 3, 2010 at 3:29 pm #

    Aunty G: Speaking of bottles, I recently discovered breakfast martinis and giggled through three in 30 minutes. Much fun. And so much for teetotalerhood.

    Anjali: 🙂

    sukanya: That sounds very Deepak Chopra-ish.

    Jil Jil Ramamani: I prefer the laddoo analogy. Food above all!

    girlonthebridge: How’s the baby?

    dipali: 🙂

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